Great Singapore sales

Great Singapore sales started.

This afternoon went causeway point shopping with my Sis, mom, joey n of cos janelle. The purpose of this shopping trip is to get a dress for my mom for new restaurant opening at safra next week. Yesterday my sis accompanied her to shop at orchard, MS, Suntec till 10+ with empty handed headed home. Today, we only spent 1 hr in metro, and we found a dress for her. I can tell that my mom don't quite like it, but 3 of us (joey, celine and myself) think this dress is suitable for the event. Simple and Elegant, so much better than those in she has. After much saying and talking, my mom finally says YES to the dress.. haaa.

While my mom is shopping, i also shopped. End up all of us got something. I bought 2 tops n a dress for myself n a dress for my mom. Total damage $200. :) celine got a top for herself. Long time never go shopping for clothes, since I have janelle, most shopping trip is for her. I have enjoyed myself n of cos with janelle too.

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Maid steal money?

Yesterday morning, my mil came to me and says my maid woke up in the middle of night to steal her money. errr.... 

I was awake till 3am on friday night, i do heard some sound from my mil room at about 1am+ but i though it was my mil wake up for toilet. so i didnt walk over and check. I wanted to search her, but my mil stopped me. she says "she still working with us, dont make things so kang ga". since she says that, i didnt search on my maid.

my maid, now every month she gets only $20 cash from me.. she still repaying her loan. and she also dont have much things to buy meh, don't think she need money bah.

what should i do?

got maid also ma fan, i told kogan about this, guess what he says "call agent and sent her off".. pianz, ended up get scolded from me.. my previous maid was sent off by him after she cut janelle hand without asking me, and leave me doing all the housework and taking care of janelle. pianz.. he want to challenge me again... but this time i just replied "can, then you cannot travel, and you do all the housework and i will take care of janelle or either way. i can't cope with work, housework (especially with his mom around) and janelle" he keep quiet.. haaa.. he himself also lazy to do housework, pianz.. never think of the end result and want to execute and make me suffered. 

Janelle first birthday

Today while browsing online for joelle birthday cake, I saw this cake (http://gladcake.blogspot.com/2009/05/precious-moment-for-janelle.html) and I fallen in love with it and I want to get it for janelle first birthday. :) after an hour of surfing, i know what to get for Janelle first birthday but not Joelle 3rd birthday. haaaa

Later in the night, I was talking to my mil, she says cannot celebrate birthday for her. She says her mom say no celebration of children birthday. Old mother tales again. Then she goes again saying master ye also mentioned that. So cannot celebrate janelle birthday.so sad. But nvm I will get a small one n  we will celebrate with daddy, mommy n janelle (exclude granny). that is enough already.


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Janelle is no longer a sarong baby.

Today, my sis celine asked me to bring Janelle to orchard shopping, but i looked at the time, it's already 5pm. I decided to give it a missed as after Janelle is sick, i would want to reach home by 7pm.. and from 7pm, will be the standard routine preparing her to sleep. But come to think of it, am comfortable to bring janelle for shopping with stroller. 

Since Janelle was hospitalize 2 month ago, we have successfully weaned Janelle off sarong. 

Con of Sarong

- she will scream and shout when she is sleepy and want to put into sarong.. hence, in the past, going out is an headache for me and kogan, as the timing has to be sharp, everything had to be chop chop and have to reach home for sarong before sleeping time. And because of this, i have never wanted to bring her to any friends outing or any mummies gathering. my girl volume is not soft.

Pro of Non-sarong

- now, i have no such worries, i know as long as i have her pacifier and baobao (bean spout pillow) for her, she can fall asleep in the stroller or in the car without much fuss. And mama can enjoy shopping at a slow parse now. 

 

Pro of sarong

- making her sleep is easy, just need to sit there and shake while watching TV

con of non-sarong

- temperature has to be her liking, no too hot, so much of the time are with the fan or aircon on when patting her to sleep.

Lucky kogan had insist to wean Janelle off the sarong after discharge. And we sent the sarong stand back to my mama place immediately. haaa.. Janelle is no longer a sarong baby.

She is special

When kogan takes care of Janelle in the middle of night, or when Janelle is cranky, he will says:

"She is a very SPECIAL baby, not like normal baby.. So she need special attention"
~ by kogan

Guess this SPECIAL had made him wake up and take care of Janelle more when he is in singapore. Now he is away in korea.. Dear, i miss you...

Month 9 Week 1

She is in her bumbo chair...
Janelle thanks 姑姑 for the chair

Maid

Can give me a break??

Is it wise to have a maid?? or should i sent Janelle to infant care instead and go without a maid and i can be back to work?? ahhh....

Every morning my mil will complain about the maid... i really sick of this.
She will scold her and says she didnt do her work. I really dont know what to do.
I have to admit that my mil is not a person that can get along with people. haiz...

This morning, again, my mil scolded my maid and threaten her that want to send her back home. I wasn't aware of that, cos i'm in my deep sleep. When my mil went to the market, my maid come and talk to me.. saying that she cannot tahan neinei not respecting her. Keep scolding her, keep saying that she didnt do her work and neinei had to do it for her. haiz... When my mil back from work, she came in and ask me to sent her home. I kind of tired of this, so i ask her not i dont want to sent her back. Last time kogan sent home a maid and i lost $600 agent fee for nothing. I dont have so much money to throw, i rather spent the money on Janelle toys.

I talked to my maid for an hour to get her promise me that she will do well. Let's keep my fingers cross.

Occupational therapy (1st session)

Today we went for the first session of occupational therapy at KKH's rehab center. After 20 min of moving Janelle here and there, she gets angry and the session came to a stop. I have make used of the reminding 30 min asking questions.

Recommendation from the therapist for Janelle

1. Reduce the time lying on the bed, truck no energy, continue lying down will make the truck no improvement. Remove the walker from her, she is picking up the wrong method to stand.

==> Put her on bumboo chair instead.

2. Give her hard object to hold

==> Let her learn how to hold

3. Guide her to take things

==> Gentle guide her hand towards the object and wait for her to take the initially to reach out for the object and not pull her hand to the object.

4. Increase the time for rollover

==> Gentle push her backside to sideways and wait for her to take the initially to roll over and not roll her over.

** Have to give lots and lots encouragement to Janelle for initially

Comment from therapist:

Janelle is not lazy, is just lack of explorsure

==> Mummy really don't know what kind of exposure should give it to Janelle. I think i need to go and get some books to read up. When i says i want to get the cot mobile, kogan stopped me. And when i says i want to get the bumboo chair, kogan stopped me too... hmm.. now mummy will buy everything i think is needed for Janelle and dont listen to daddy anymore.. Daddy, don't say mummy anyhow spent money, i'm giving Janelle exposure...

Told my sil that i can borrow the bumboo chair from amanda yiyi, but she says "I buy for Jing Xuan, dont need to borrow". And she went to mothercare and got it immediately after the session and get a bumboo chair $85 and a toy $14.. (paid by gugu).

Today session cost $70, therapist says she would like to see us every 2 to 3 weeks.. ask me if i'm ok anot.. cos i'm paying at a private rate of $70 every session is expensive.. to get subsidies, i need to downgrade my class in KKH. If downgraded, we will not be able to see the same doctor (dr derrick chan in neurology's) and not be able to see the same therapist each time. errr... and the price we going to pay is 40% less... still considering

Blood test result is normal

Today after rehab, i headed down to check janelle's blood test result, I feel so relief when i heard DrC says "result is normal.. not to worry"

Janelle blood test result is adnormal

yesterday follow up with DrC, he told us that he went through Janelle's notes again and realised that one of her blood test result showed abnormal. And she need to go through another of blood test to test for Lactate. He didn't want to go into detail with us yet, as he says from the brain scan and lambaputure, the result doesn't show this abnormal, so he suspend is due some error in the blood test sample or procedure. He will give us more details after the blood test taken yesterday. Result should be out by this afternoon, will go to his clinic and get the result later.

From 21-May-2009 blood test result, it shows that the medication in Janelle is below normal range and she is still having seizure so we need to up the dosage again. He commented that Janelle's body is working well and is able to break down the medication faster than normal babies. errr.. not sure what does that means, but at least i know that the medication doesn't stay in her body and cause any harmfulness to her.

Our target is zero seizure... Janelle, mummy know you can do it.. You have done very well and please keep it up.. All the way!! my girl. Mummy loves you.

Teething

After 2 sleepless night, Janelle's 5th tooth is out.

Her 5th tooth is on her upper 3rd tooth, and not the expected lower 3rd tooth, should i raise an alarm on this?? or is this normal??

Our Medicine war ended

Big Big thanks for amanda yi yi for telling mummy yvonne of this great little tool.

My medicine war had come to an end with pacifier medication dispensary.. janelle can finish the medicine within seconds with this smart little tool.. no more war time.. Got it from Mothercare in KKH at $10 :)

A morning in KKH

This morning, we went to KKH for Janelle's blood test and rehab assessment.

Blood test:

Janelle just made her daddy and mommy so proud of her. She did not cry when the nurse draw blood from her... Yes, did not cry at all... my brave little girl. Daddy was carrying her, mummies was playing pee-a-boo with her while the nurse draw the blood. she can even play and laugh out loud with me.. cute..

rehab assessment:

during last week follow up with drC, he referred us to rehab center for assessment. there were 3 therapist to assess Janelle. 1) Speech and Language 2) physio 3) occupational. after the assessment, we will need to go for follow up session in 4mths, 1mth and 2 weeks time with each therapist. 

Result of the assessment, 

1) Janelle back is not strong enough that's why she still cant sit stable and seldom want to roll over.

2) When she is sit up, she is using energy to support herself hence she cant concentrate on playing with the toys etc.

3) lack of play skill, should let her play with more children and she will learn how to play... err.. this might be a problem, where got children??

4) Speech, is good that she speak but she should able to copy simple words like mum-mum which she still not able to. This we have to guide her and as for now, this is not the main concern cos she still young.

Sleeping Position

Since Janelle is born, she had been sleeping on her back.

when about 7+ month old, and she will turn herself to side and fall asleep.

when she is in her 9 months, she will turned over and sleep on her tummy.. :)

this is how she sleep now

But before she gets into her sleeping position, she will be tossing here and there for at least 30 min. haiz. Daddy kogan commented that her sleeping pattern is like mummy, likes to turn here and there.. :P

War time

Everyday, i will have couple war time with janelle.

Medicine war time. One day 3x. 9am, 2pm and 8pm.

Sleeping war time. One day 2x.. morning nap and evening nap is ok.. but not afternoon nap and night sleep.. she will flight with me and refused to sleep, sometimes i will need to pat her for at least 30 min before she fall to sleep. if i dont pat her, she will gets overtired and fits... haiz

Thumb up for broccolli

When Janelle had constipation, i will steam broccoli and add to her porridge. It helps her to relieve constipation. I have tried this method for the third time when i see janelle poo is small and hard, and it works very well for her each time  :) Hopefully we can says good bye to those constipation medication. 

Broccoli Nutrition Facts

There is a high level of vitamin C in broccoli.

Broccoli is also packed with vitamin A, beta carotene, B vitamins especially B3 and B5, folic acid, phosphorus, potassium, iron, chromium, which is an easily absorbed form of calcium, zinc and lots of fiber.

It's also loaded with carotenoids - antioxidants that are thought to help with weight loss.

** should only give your baby broccoli after 8 months.

Jewels design

Before my wedding, my father went 拜拜 and 观音娘娘 gave me an orange as my wedding gift and inside the orange there is a gemstone.

My father had custom made and cast the gemstone on a ring which i seldom wear it. Suddenly i have an idea to recast it on a pendant so that i will wear it everyday. But no idea what design should i go with.




browsed the web to get some ideas:


1. name pendant and hang the gemstone under one of the charaters.
==> personalise but dont think i want other ppl to know my name






2. simple elegant like

which one should i go for??

Anyone have any new ideas, please feel free to let me know.. thanks...

Janelle's update

Thanks everyone for showing Janelle of your concern. here's the update up to todate.

She is now much better. The medication had shows improvement to her condition.

• a month again, just discharge from hospital, she fits 10 times every 3 days.
  
• after up the dosage as per doctor instruction, the numbers had dropped to 5to6 times every 3 days, which is still no good but at least some improvement.
  
• after adjusting the timing of medication (3x a day with the same dosage a day), the numbers had dropped to 2to3 times every 3 days, i believe Janelle can do something better than this. our target is 0to1time a week.
  

Janelle gross motor is slow, she can now sit for a little while if we position her well. I do see improvement in her every day, sitting on her own from 1 sec (2 weeks ago) to 20 sec (yesterday). Now am training her how to come to a sitting position to herself and of cos to sit more stable.




Good Job my girl. Keep it up. Mummy is proud of you..

Another day at work

is working mom a choice for me?

it seems that i cant go into office for a day, today i need to be in office for training on reporting which is another project am taking over. i told my mil that my meeting ends at 3pm and will try to reach home by 4pm.. at 230pm i called home to ensure everything is fine, maid told me it's ok. then 245pm, my mil asked me to come home immediately cos she cant take it anymore. haiz

where got a job that is purely working from home and dont need to go into office for meeting nor training??


yesterday night, at abt 3am, janelle was talking to herself and woke my mil up. she came into my room and ask me to sleep while she take care of jx. she hugged jx and she fall alseep beside jx. but jx didnt feel comfortable so she kicked my mil.. haaa.. naughty little girl har.. i fall alseep.. by the time i woke up by janelle again was about 4am, my mil is gone and janelle is still awake.. haaa... guess she also cant take it.

sometimes, during the day time, when my mil was tired, she will just bring jx me and she went to sleep. or she will carry jx standing outside of the study room looking at me... which means "hey u should take care of ur baby".. pressured

Follow up at KKH

Today, my sil accompanied me to kkh for Janelle follows up with Dr Derrick Chan.

Janelle's seizure still cannot be controlled by medication.. she is still having cluster of 5 to 6 fits every 3 days and last fit was on sunday morning, hence dr chan suggest to up her dosage again. Cabamazepine from 5ml to 6ml + Nitrazepine from 1/2 tablet to 1 tablet. And next thursday will need to return to KKH for blood test, to check her blood contains of the drugs level. Dr chan adviced that if by next appointment, these 2 drugs still cant control her seizure, we will proceed to change drugs again. our aims is to have seizure-less, one or two short seizure is acceptable. 

Dr Chan did a quick assessment for Janelle, and he mentioned that it is worth to go for Physiotherapy for their assessment and advice. Janelle still have not able to sit on her own (7mths), not yet reach out for things(6mths), and she is coming to 9 months now. I have booked an appt with the rehad center at kkh - next thursday after her blood test. haiz, this assessment will cost about $200+ as 3 physiotherapy will come in for assessment - Speech and language, Physio, Play

God, please bless my girl.

8 months and 3 weeks

taken on 06/May/2009 by Aunty Jessica

My first Mother's Day

Today is my first mother's day. Waiting for Janelle to call me "Mummy" .

After 9 months as a mother, it is not an easy task. Especially having such a baby like Janelle. As a mother, it required patience, knowledge, brave and lots lots of love. Since i have Janelle, i have never have a good night rest. She had been waking up almost every night for milk and play for at least 3 hrs before falling back to sleep. sometimes, when i'm lucky, she can sleep till 6am then wake up for milk and back to sleep, or kogan will volunteer to help taking care of her in the night. when i'm unlucky, haiz, she will wake up every 15min once her pacifier dropped off. I have been alone taking of her in the night 99% of the times. especially when kogan around, i cant complaint about janelle, cos he will throw a huge temper and says get someone to take care of jx, only return home over the weekend. After few such incident, what i can do is remain quiet when he is in town, not even scold janelle in the middle of night... if i'm damn tired or upset, i can only cry over my pillow, behind everyone. in front of janelle, i need to be very positive and happy, so that she will be positive and happy too. in front of everyone, i need to be strong.

Of cos, there is tiredness, but there is happiness. when seeing her growing up, hitting each of the milestones, every of her smile and laughter make my heart melts and forget about all of the tiredness i have been thought in the nights.

Janelle, Mummy loves you, my only wish now is that you are healthy... all illness stay away from you... far far away.

My sweet husband

Sometime Kogan can be very sweet. After we had confirmed that I worked from home, he helped me to tired up my desk, bought me self, drawers to keep things so that I have rooms for work. He even got a phone with ear piece for my concall.

Before he fly off to germeny, he got a card from the airport and post it to me. It is my first mother's day card. When I first saw the card n was reading it my tears just flow down. Hee. Thanks dear.



Now he is in germeny, everyday he will try to wake up early and skype with me to check the status at home. He always request to show him janelle, no matter she is playing or sleeping.

Yesterday afternoon I heard some sound in janelle room during office hrs, I rushed over from the study room, who knows I hit myself to the drawers Kogan bought for me, err dear I think u need to do something to the drawers.


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Another old traditional method

Amanda mummy helped me found an old traditional method for controlling fits in Malaysia. Using 紫沙粉和冰榔叶 to cover her feet over the night and the aims is to pull out the 风 inside her body where her feet will turn blue for a couple of days. I took off this morning, I didn't see any blue, what does that means?








Yesterday night, mung whole family visited us n helped me got all the things ready. They are just so sweet. Thanks mung mung and auntie. Janelle played with anutie till lol. These days she had been very playful. ;) yesterday was the first time, janelle having medicine and so many praise her, mung whole family was there: "janelle good girl, 厉害wor..." my girl also not bad, She returned them with a smile.

Mei mei was cute. My mil gave her packet drink, she took a slip and turned over to the tv so that her mom n grandmom can't see her, and she smile. Haa.


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Mama had went end of wise

On tuesday night, janelle started to have fits in the middle of night. At first I thought she is making her turn, but when I peed on her, I saw her fitting. Omg. I jump of my bed n there got my night. I wasn't able fall back to sleep as afraid she will gave another fit. I sit beside her and watch her till morning.

On Wednesday afternoon, she still having fits. And I know this is no good. I have reached my end of wise, no idea what I can do next. I recalled that my dad told me abt a old anutie that can crüe fits by some old traditional method. I just tell myself, give it a try. I brought her to this anutie.

Hope her method can works on the amother hand, i increased her dosage as per instruction. This is 2nd day fitless. Ususally she will fit every 3 to 4 days. God bless please.


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My MIL stupid idea (Part 2)

Today again, she goes again.

She asked me to give my girl away to my brother in law. And stop my girl calling me mummy.

This time, i tell her straight into her face, "NO, I DONT WANT. and dont ask me again. Where got a mother want to give her own child again."

Update of janelle

Her seizure still not well controlled yet. Now we are adjusting for medication dosage and monitor closely.

Two weeks ago, she will have seizure every 3 to 4 days, and once the seizure start, it will have a cluster of 10+ times a day. Which is no good.

After dr derrick chan, he had give me a medication plan for two weeks. I do see some improvement. From cluster of 10+ times to cluster of 3 to 5 times every few days. But it is still not good enough.

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Crunky baby

Janelle had hit my limit of patience. She had been very crunky lately. Cannot take it.

Yesterday night she cried for 3 hrs before she settled in for her night. I was so angry but I still need to control myself to settled her down. The whole family was around because Kogan out of town. Each one pampered her for half an hr n they are scared. My idiot mil was there keep saying for 3hrs "I know she must be uncomfortable somewhere, just don't where" pianz. Everyone knows that. I was abt to ask her shut up. Haiz. But don't want to make things worst, I remain silent.


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Follow up with KKH

On thursday, we went back to Koh for follow up with drC

Result for MRI was ok. The brian is normal.
Result for EEG shows that her fits is caused by the back of the brian which they classify as partial. But the cause remains unknown.

Now the plan nw is to change the mediciation since current mediciation n dosage can't control the seizures.

We also checked with drC if traditional Chinese medical a way out for this illness. He warned us for that. Asthe medication contains the same content as western antifits mediciation. So if she takes both side, it will only be double dosage. Kkh had many such cases where the child ended in icu.


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Compaints

Ai yo, I told myself not to compaint, but I can't stop myself. Angry.

1. My mil-she ask me to carry janelle n feed her porridge and not using the highchair. I told her so many times of my purpose of using the highchair. So one day I was so pissed off, words just come out of my mouth. "you have ur way to bring out ur child, so do I. So can u don't tell me what I need to do. When u take care of jx with ur method I keep quiet, now u trying to give her what I think is the best for her, can u also respect me?" think she angry n walk away.

2. My mil- she compaint to everyone that I scare jx liver n kiney can't take the Chinese medication so I didn't give jx the Chinese medication to control her seizure. Then she will add on "i think if Chinese yishi give n it is ok" fainted. Sick of explaining to her.

3. Kogan - anything that do with money for discussion is an item for quarrel. After so long Kogan still not able to accept the car. When he drive, he didn't compaint. Once talk abt fianance, there he goes, blaming me getting such a big car. Pianz. Any thing do with the car, I will keep quiet n stay as what it is now.

4. Kogan - after telling him to keep quiet abt whatever things his mom going to do to the house, he still can't control. He keep wanting to find words n quarrel with her. As the result, his mom come n scold me. What a world.

5. Kogan - I called up a Feng shui master to check the fengshui of this house if suit jx. Is the room suit her on Feng shui. I spent $500 and all the tips was to push up Kogan luck. What I received from him was spent money in this way us not correct. I didn't get a single cents from him on this n I just want to an xin. I have cone to my end of wise.


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