Key Collection...

30th December 2009, Wednesday

This morning, my MIL approached me and told us to move out... she don't want us to stay with her anymore.. And this marked and firmed out all the thoughts... WE ARE MOVING TO PUNGGOL

Noon time, we went for our key collection... finally.. collected the keys..

Procedure of key collection:

Items to bring:
a) bank passbook to settle some stuffs that will deducted thru GIRO
b) both ur ICs and
c) appointment letter
d) marriage cert

e) child birth cert

1) go to HDB level 2 to apply for Fire Insurance ($7 plus); we spent another $350 for 5 years comprehensive fire insurance.

2) go to HDB level 1's register counter for the Q numbers; and wait for the number to be called

3) in the room, you will sign sign and sign all the legal documents; decide how long to settle the loan, what is the % from both CPF, etc

4) go to HDB level 3 to make payment for conservancy charges abt 50+

5) go to HDB level 2 to apply for Singapore Power

6) go back to level 1 to return the receipt of (4) to the officer..

all will be done within 1hr...

We popped by punggol but didnt open the door as we are waiting for a good timing... so need to wait till tmr. :) *ren* we went to our shortlisted contractor chu from coos design for re-quotation for the renovation.. from renting out quotation 6K to moving in quotation 16K... it is additional 10K more.. wah...

we plan to do up

- grill for all windows

- add on a sliding windows to the service yard

- kitchen cabinet

- sliding tempered glass door for kitchen

- master bedroom and study room wardrobe

- false ceiling

- air con

The next one month we will be super busy and hopefully will be done before chinese new year..

MIL in action again...

28th December 2009, Tuesday..

No idea what happened to my MIL again.. haiz... my fear happens..

I was playing with janelle in the living room... and janelle went on high kneeing position and throw herself towards me.. i make way for janelle to have more space to do so.. MIL sitting on the sofa watching TV and she shouted -

MIL: Dont move your leg... let her climb on you...
ME: *ignore* and continue to play with Janelle
MIL: tell you dont move your leg and let her climb..
ME: *piss* she want to be on her knees and i'm making way for her..
HUS: ai ya, you watch your TV, dont need to give your commands to them.. let them play on their own
MIL: started to scream and shout again... all the woo ahhh again..
"you dont want to talk to me" ... "dont want to take care of janelle.. "
bah bah bah.. i also cant remember much... then my fear of words come out from her mouth.. "you all move out and dont let me see you then i will not says anything"
haiz, i knew it will happens and it is just a matter of time..
HUS: if you really want us to move out, u just say.. we can move out next month..
MIL went silent...


in the night, she complaint to SIL over the phone while we are in the room, she complained that we never take care of her... never ask her for dinner, never care of her, stay with son and dil always not happy, etc etc.. i overheard it and i went to kogan... let's move out...

And as today decision is to move out to punggol.. i dont mind to take care of janelle myself.. to help in house work and spent more time with janelle... then mentally torture by them..

EPIC is not suitable for Janelle??

29th Decemeber 2009, Tuesday

23rd Dec, we had an appointment with KKH social worker for an interview for Janelle to attend the special school.. dont ask me why need to meet up with the social worker.. they dont have much details of what the school does, if janelle suitable anot, just asked us how we cope... My reply is "till now i cant cope, and i cant accept what had happens to janelle but do i have a choice??" she remain silent. maybe i find it is a waste of time for this interview and they arent flexible enough for appointment rearrangement and i had to wait 1.5 months for this interview., so wasnt very friendly to them.. however, she mentioned she will proceed to refer janelle to epic which is refer us to another org to refer us to epic... the whole process will takes about 3 motnhs, and we requested to push for january intake.. i really hope janelle can have much more improvement before CNY.

29th Dec, she called and says doc is not referring to epic for janelle however he refer janelle to IPPC (childcare for special needs) but this is only for children above 2.. and EPIC is only for more severe patients. so what does that means?? i get them go ahead with 2 programs if possible. if not, no choice lo...

Merry Christmas !!!

Key Collection

21st december 2009, monday

after waiting for 3 years and 10 months, our flat is ready for key collection on 30 december 2009.

Sentosa

20th december 2009, sunday

During our way down to tuina, maid told me that my sis bringing 3Js to sentosa in the morning..

after tuina, seeing such a great weather and decided to pop by sentosa to join them and also for janelle to have a feel of sand and water.. :) although it is short one hr at tbe beach but it was great fun.... we will be back..

Meimei - Joelle

Guess you guys had see me blogging about Joelle... but wondering why her and not the other 2?

Let me tell you the story of Joelle, when Joelle is 18 months, she had virus inflection in her blood and causes non-stop of high fever, fever fit and she went into comma for a week which resulted meningitis... our family tears so much for her when she seeing her in ICU.. she stayed in hospital for about 1month, and only starts to recover after blood transplant. upon discharge, she lost her ability to walk, talk, sit and she had a brain damage of 40%.

today, about 2 years later.. she is back to normal.. she recovered very well.. all her development are back... very smart now.. we have been very proud of her.. she is very strong, and we had been through alot with her...

now, she is 3.5 years old.. she can read a story book to Janelle, teach my dad on how to use iphone, when she watched DVD she will cry with luo jia lang and hu xing er, she will come to us covered her mouth and says softly "i tell you a secret", asking me lots of "what is this?", copying how her grandma run to make us laugh, argue with me that i'm not mummy.. janelle to call me gugu... and ask me to call my mom "ah ma" cos only her mama is mummy... and definitely lots more of joy she had brought to the family. it is an endless list.. but just the few above can tell you she is cute right??

and she is our Joelle:

A Question from my niece and nephew which i dont know how to answer

18th December 2009, Friday

My niece and nephew asked -

Joey: 姑姑, why baby still dont know how to walk?
Joseph: ya lo, 姑姑, why you DONT WANT to let baby learn how to walk??
Me: remain silent.. **thinking of best answer**
Joey: mummy's friend baby who is same age with janelle is now walking an running already....
Me: really??
Joseph: yes, she can even talk.. why you dont let baby learn??
Me: cos baby janelle is sick, so she is abit slower than normal kids.
Joey: but you see, meimei also sick when she is young, but she can walk and talk when 2 yr old..
Me: Maybe 姑姑 not doing a good job.. can you guys help 姑姑... help 姑姑to teach Janelle how to walk and talk??

I really dont know how to answer them... and this is not the first time they asked me this...

Follow up with KKH

18th December 2009, Friday

Yesterday we went back to KKH neurology for monthly follow up.

As usually, to up Janelle's drug dosage again as she still having seizure. But from Nov's once every 3 days to once ever week after introduce tuina to her.

According to doc, Eplim max dosage is at 7ml for janelle and she is now still at 3ml, so still got room for up the dosage. however, the other 2 drug she is having - nitrazepam and carbazepine had hit the max dosage. and if eplim hit the max dosage and she still having seizure, then have to add on the 4th drug... very sad right.. the more drug she takes, the more harmful it will be.

Before i went off, i checked with him regarding about stem cells treatment. His answer is NO. the reason is the technology still new, and it had not proven it is a solution for epilepsy. and he has oversea patients who had tried this and the treatment was failed. It seems to make the seizure worst and the cells had developed into something else in the brain. so, not for now.

tired....

15 December 2009, Tuesday

Woke up by Janelle at 140am... not able to fall back to sleep till 4am.. keep having bad dreams.. goodness seek.. am so tired now..

my xmas wish for this year will be
1. Janelle's health, no more seizure and no need to be on mediciation.
2. Janelle to caught up with her development, be able to walk and communicate with us

now i cant watch shows on those adnormal people, i will gets very worried for Janelle.. my thoughts will go wild.. at times, i will perfer to stay in my own world, not to see other toddlers, not to compare.. can we? almaka, all because of the charity shows la... need to forget abt that man..

Xmas gathering with Aug 2008 Babies

14th December 2009, Sunday

Night time she gave me headache, she didnt sleep well.. From 1am to 2am, she was tossing non-stop and cry once pacificer dropped off. Mummy woke up and pat her sleep till 2.30am.. At 530am, she woke up. hmm, playfully little girl, she refused to sleep so daddy throw her out of the room.. heeee, and let the maid to take care of her while he went back to sleep.. Leaving her alone with maid in the morning, where she needs to do housework, i believe she wouldnt be able to take care.. so mummy forced to wake up and feed jx breakfast and mop mop her.. she plays till 10am then back to sleep.. and she only woke up at 2pm..

We have a xmas party from 11am to 3pm, by the time we reached there, it was already 230pm, and they were wrapping up and sending the guests off. I know we are very late, however Mummy still decided to drop by just to collect Janelle's xmas gift. Paid $12 for this:




After the gathering, we went off to amk hub and grab some xmas presents.. and back to my mummy's place.

Just when my father and mama returned from my brother's ex-girlfriend wedding lunch, errr.. abit weird right.. father take her as god-daugther and she invited them, so he went... when he returned from the lunch, he was telling us that too bad, bro and her have no fate and lucky was not my bro do wrong to her which causes this break off, else my father dont know how to face her relatives who he found that most of her relatives are his long-known friends. they used to stayed nearby.. the world is so small.

Desert @ Chong Pang

-- Post From My iPhone

Xmas is coming

13 December 2009, Sunday

I used to love xmas, where i will went out shopping for xmas gift for my close friends... it was great.. and usually damage is huge but is happy...

but since i have janelle, xmas to me is just another day.. cant bring her out to squeeze with the crowds. and xmas shopping turns out to be a how?? to be.. this year, my xmas shopping are all online... brought A and J gift online and plus some DIY. company xmas party on this thursday and with a budget of $20, really dont know what to get... let me see if i have time to go shopping later..

Later in the noon time, me and janelle are going for a xmas gathering with 50+ aug 2008's babies... i'm giving a second tots of whether to go or not.. hmmm... i believe all aug babies now should be able to walk and run, but janelle..... haiz, mummy's feel so negative today.. maybe drop by to collect janelle xmas gift and went off shopping bah...

I still got need to get:

1. mommy's birthday present

2. dear's xmas present

3. co's xmas present

4. a xmas present for myself and janelle

mummy is so fat now.... working from home really kills me... the most i walk 50 steps a day... and the rest of day is seating there in the chair.. my tummy now is as when i'm 5 mths pregnant.. hmm.. thinking to go and get a slimming gel and uzip to zip off those fats before CNY.

Cant stand it anymore

07 December 2009, Monday

Dont know what happened to my MIL... Everthing we do is wrong.. everything we do she will nag and nag... Only things she do she right... what she knows taking care of kids are only shit, eat and sleep. When her play time, she put janelle on the floor and she watched TV.

Maid wanted to play with janelle, teach her standing up... kanna my MIL scolded..
Maid wanted to let her seat on the rented toys.. kanna my MIL scolded..
Maid brought janelle into my study room and play toys.. kanna my MIL scolded..
Maid brought janelle into my bedroom, kanna my MIL scolded
When Janelle ah ah ah for nothing, MIL outside shout "Give su su, give su su" (susu means milk in malay)

She had never give a second thoughts on what time is her meal time, what time is her play time.. to her, ah ah ah means milk/sleep.. haiz

I wanted to take some time off my work, so i went and play with Janelle... I let janelle plays on her bed and let her reached out with toys far away... at times she will fall and roll over, but on the bed, no pain... at first we played very happy, and tried putting the toys further and further away.. and when she out of reach, she starts to cry for help... i was there encouraging janelle to reach out. my maid kanna scolded by MIL again as maid was with me in the room.. and she went shouting to bring janelle outside to her in malay to my maid... and she ignored cos i was in the room.. Janelle was there still crying for help (no tears, just ah ah ah) MIL run to the room and scolded both maid and myself for let janelle inside.. pianz, i so angry and shouted back, "You have no idea what happened and you keep scolding. I am trying to let her reached out for her own toys... she cant reached that's why she cried.." she walked away and scolded my maid for letting janelle in the room and ask her to bring janelle out... away from me..

I'm very angry... but dont want to quarrel with her.. i let her handled with janelle and i went back to work.. then she scolded janelle when she was there ah ah and want my MIl to bring toys to her... 15 min later, i heard another scolding from her to janelle, i went out and carry janelle away from her without saying a single word and back into our room with the door closed and locked.

ANGRY ANGRY ANGRY

** Family Day **

05 December 2009, Saturday

Morning: @ my mama place, my gugu went back because she want to collect something with me.. hmmm.. there goes my show.. and hus wash and max the car for 2 hrs... before the rain starts to pour and he gave up.

Noon: @ Mygym, brought Joelle with me today. As she started crying non stop when her mummy went out without her.. in order to calm her down, my mom told her that later 姑姑 (me) will bring her to mygym with Janelle and indeed she stop crying.. but i have never mentioned a word. is my mom promise her, in order to fulfill my mom promise, we brought her along.

Afternoon: @ home and sleep

Late Afternoon: @SSC's giant

Evening: @ bil's place, Janelle enjoyed the accompany with her uncle and 2nd brother. She was playing and laughing with them while my maid was there.. "late already, go home.. go home" as a result, she was got scolded from my mil again.. haaa.. my mil always want me to bring janelle to my bil's place, and to let janelle have a better sleep there, she forked out her pocket money to installed air con for them. well, maybe when janelle gets better, will bring her over for dinner more often.

Night: return home and spent some time with Janelle for exercise and massage before she went to bed.

It was a nice and great spent saturday.. and am very glad that janelle can accept it.

How to stop cough in 5 minutes!!!

Saw this from forum, think is good to note it down for Just in case use.

How to stop cough in 5 minutes!!!

This is a must try.... We have all been kept awake by our own or someone else's cough.

The tip and not the cough. ANYTHING is! better than antibiotics.

Even babies could benefit from this and the parents wouldn't worry about the safety of their child. And of course, it is harmless and free from any type of side-effects.

It works 100 percent of the time, although the scientists at the Canada Research council (who discovered it) aren't sure why.

Treatment: To stop night time coughing in a child (or an adult, as! we found out personally), put Vicks Vapor Rub generously on the bottom of the feet at bedtime and then cover with socks.

Even persistent, heavy, deep coughing will stop in about five minutes and stay stopped for many, many hours of relief. This works 100 percent of the time, and is more effective in children than even very strong prescription cough medicines. In addition it is extremely soothing and comforting and they will sleep soundly.

To rent a toy

considering to rent Bright Starts Tropical Fun Around We Go Activity Station for janelle.

Not sure how to rent and from where... dear reader, any idea??

Found:

http://www.mygrowingtoys.com/; renting for a month at $53

retail selling price $229

There is a second hand selling at $150 at SMH.

Should i rent??

Final Decision

01 Decemeber 2009, Tuesday

Final Decision: We are NOT moving out...

Very upset and disappointed... waited for nearly 4 years... but for Janelle, we decided not to move out. Will continue to stay in Yishun with my mil and rent out punggol flat if possible.

In 2010, will let Janelle attend special school (Rainbow) in Yishun for EIPIC, a more intents physio therapy and classes for slow development child. Once she reached her age milestone, i will put her to the childcare nearby to my bil's place so that i can return to work force. Wanted to put her to CC (kinderland) near my mama's place, but the school dont want to accept janelle and there are no more nearby CC around my mom's place. So have no choice, i need to source somewhere near to my mil so easy for mil and maid to fetch jx, and this area will have more options. It is not easy to find a CC for Janelle.. many schools had rejected my application after telling them Janelle's condition and need to give her medication on time. While many of them just tell me Janelle is not ready for CC. Target to put Janelle to school at the age of 2.. So stay in yishun will be more convenience.

Further more, hus afraid if anything happened and i cant handle, especially when he is out of town. In Yishun, at the very least his mom is around, bil and sil is nearby (less than 5 min drive).

3rd, my job is not stable as from now onwards.. If i lost this job, i believe not likely i cant find one that i can work from home. So most likely by then i will be a stay at home mom till Janelle is ready to go for Childcare. So hus hope to have the rental income to cover up Janelle's medical bills and have more saving to prepare for the worst.

Guess i have no choice, but to stay put with all my mil's nags.. as i dont have any better plans for the above... Wish me LUCK..