Planning for holidays:
12-13June - family outing to USS (w 3Js)
22-25June - girls trip to BKK
13-14Aug - family outing to sentosa (w hus & janelle)
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Tuesday, May 31, 2011
Friday, May 27, 2011
Part time mommy
Don't since where I have another child. The night before, received SMS from her mom saying she requested a birthday party at home and want to invited her classmate over. After putting janelle to bed, stayed up late night to touched up, print and cut her birthday invitation card. Yesterday morning, she called and Waited for her card anxiously. I wrote a notes to the teacher and sign off as "Joelle mom"
Yesterday afternoon, pop told me that he wanted to plan a trip nearby for the 3Js over the holiday. With his limited ideas, genting or cruise.. Hmmm boring and they have been there. So I suggested sentosa stay cation, so my janelle also can join in. Haaaa.
Yesterday evening when was there to pick up janelle, she asked "gugu, can u go to my school tmr for the meet the parent session". Should I go?
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Yesterday afternoon, pop told me that he wanted to plan a trip nearby for the 3Js over the holiday. With his limited ideas, genting or cruise.. Hmmm boring and they have been there. So I suggested sentosa stay cation, so my janelle also can join in. Haaaa.
Yesterday evening when was there to pick up janelle, she asked "gugu, can u go to my school tmr for the meet the parent session". Should I go?
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Saturday, May 21, 2011
Lost part of her tooth
This morning she had a fall and dropped part of her tooth.
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Friday, May 20, 2011
Wednesday, May 18, 2011
Caught maid with mobile phone
I have never allow my maid to hold a mobile phone, the reason is because i see so many maids talking non-stop on the phone while taking care of children or doing housework. Sometimes i see them gigging over the phone, crying over the phone, flirting on the phone.. how can they managed the tasks when they are on the phone, not many ppl can multitasking.
1st time caught my maid with a phone just come over. I gave her my warning and keep the phone and phone card with me till she returned home for holiday last year.
2nd time caught my maid with a phone was like 2 months ago, where she brought janelle to the playground. i hide myself at a coner and see what she was up to with janelle at the playground. Janelle was pushing her walker and she had a fall while maid was on her phone smsing. She bended down and with one hand hugged janelle and another hand still on her phone. She dont even noticed me walking towards her. When i called her, she was so shocked and quickly keep the phone away. that time she says the phone was her friend, and she returned the phone to her friend infront of me. I got a big scolding and reasoning from me that day.
this is the 3rd time i caught her on mobile phone again, she was smsing when i walked into her room with janelle. this time round she was so shocked and wanted to cry out, i see tears around her eyes. I keep quiet, no scolding, nothing, just asked her to bring janelle to wash up and to the bed. I took away the phone. After Janelle is sleep, i gave her chances to tell the truth. When she tried to lie to me, i took her to the living room and i on the CCTV.. then she spell all out. Hope that is all she hid from me. the reason she gave me why she need a phone was, to sms her friends and family in indo. The sim card is giving 75sms free for every 5 sms sent. and to listen to music and also as a alarm clock. I was too tired to saying anything else that time, so i told her i will keep the phone while let me think what's the best solutions.
I put myself into her shoes, in today's world mobile phone had becomes one of must have item in our daily life. Everyone need to stay in contact with friends and family, especially when out of town. Take away her mobile phone = cutting off the connection with her friends and family.. this is not a good thing to do. But for me to give in to let her be those maid that i saw downstairs, chit chatting non-stop on the phone when taking care of janelle, is a NO NO for me. Cracking my brain for a solution that has the best of both world.
My proposal to her and she had accepted it happily.
- She is allowed to use mobile phone, but only in the night after Janelle sleep - about 10pm till next morning 7am.
- in between 7am to 10pm, she is not allow to keep her mobile phone as who knows if she would use it secertly anot. she will need to pass the phone to me and keep it in a the glass cabinet where i can see it.
- i have every rights to know who she is calling or smsing to.
- day time, no more taking nap with janelle, once janelle is asleep, she is to do up all her housework.
Guess this is the best i can do for her. If she let me caught on her lieing to me, sorry but i have to sent her back.
1st time caught my maid with a phone just come over. I gave her my warning and keep the phone and phone card with me till she returned home for holiday last year.
2nd time caught my maid with a phone was like 2 months ago, where she brought janelle to the playground. i hide myself at a coner and see what she was up to with janelle at the playground. Janelle was pushing her walker and she had a fall while maid was on her phone smsing. She bended down and with one hand hugged janelle and another hand still on her phone. She dont even noticed me walking towards her. When i called her, she was so shocked and quickly keep the phone away. that time she says the phone was her friend, and she returned the phone to her friend infront of me. I got a big scolding and reasoning from me that day.
this is the 3rd time i caught her on mobile phone again, she was smsing when i walked into her room with janelle. this time round she was so shocked and wanted to cry out, i see tears around her eyes. I keep quiet, no scolding, nothing, just asked her to bring janelle to wash up and to the bed. I took away the phone. After Janelle is sleep, i gave her chances to tell the truth. When she tried to lie to me, i took her to the living room and i on the CCTV.. then she spell all out. Hope that is all she hid from me. the reason she gave me why she need a phone was, to sms her friends and family in indo. The sim card is giving 75sms free for every 5 sms sent. and to listen to music and also as a alarm clock. I was too tired to saying anything else that time, so i told her i will keep the phone while let me think what's the best solutions.
I put myself into her shoes, in today's world mobile phone had becomes one of must have item in our daily life. Everyone need to stay in contact with friends and family, especially when out of town. Take away her mobile phone = cutting off the connection with her friends and family.. this is not a good thing to do. But for me to give in to let her be those maid that i saw downstairs, chit chatting non-stop on the phone when taking care of janelle, is a NO NO for me. Cracking my brain for a solution that has the best of both world.
My proposal to her and she had accepted it happily.
- She is allowed to use mobile phone, but only in the night after Janelle sleep - about 10pm till next morning 7am.
- in between 7am to 10pm, she is not allow to keep her mobile phone as who knows if she would use it secertly anot. she will need to pass the phone to me and keep it in a the glass cabinet where i can see it.
- i have every rights to know who she is calling or smsing to.
- day time, no more taking nap with janelle, once janelle is asleep, she is to do up all her housework.
Guess this is the best i can do for her. If she let me caught on her lieing to me, sorry but i have to sent her back.
Monday, May 16, 2011
2nd one?
I have been thinking to have a 2nd one and close factory by the age of 30. 30 is coming to an end very soon, and i still dont have the courage to go for it especially when i look at Janelle. Yes, she is pretty and lovely.. but the energy needed on her is alot alot more than anyone.
I always envy my sil who can give birth to 3 healthy children and not lossing her freedom.
Last week, saw janelle classmate's mom having her 4th child, i admired her courage. Her never give up energy to her special needs child has always put me into a shameful position, especially when she has 2 normal child who started schooling. Yesterday, hus invitied a neighbour who parents are away from work and they have to eat out 3 times a day. seeing janelle enjoyed his accompany, following him every where he goes and janelle laugher when the two kids played together. I asked myself again, should i have a 2nd one? can i cope?
Taking care of a child alone is never been easy, especially when i have one special needs and I cant count on my hus on anything about taking care of children. I have yet found a helper that i let her take care of my child without worring.
I always envy my sil who can give birth to 3 healthy children and not lossing her freedom.
Last week, saw janelle classmate's mom having her 4th child, i admired her courage. Her never give up energy to her special needs child has always put me into a shameful position, especially when she has 2 normal child who started schooling. Yesterday, hus invitied a neighbour who parents are away from work and they have to eat out 3 times a day. seeing janelle enjoyed his accompany, following him every where he goes and janelle laugher when the two kids played together. I asked myself again, should i have a 2nd one? can i cope?
Taking care of a child alone is never been easy, especially when i have one special needs and I cant count on my hus on anything about taking care of children. I have yet found a helper that i let her take care of my child without worring.
Sunday, May 15, 2011
This is how I feel now
Just completed OT with janelle at KKH. Today, I took a step back and monitor what OT did for her. I feel that it's the same for the past one year. And janelle had no improvement on her fine motor. Are we on the wrong track.
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Sunday, May 8, 2011
Happy Mother's Day
This year had a most tiring Mother's day. Started yesterday, with interviews, voting, pop over to far east flora to get some flowers, brought janelle and 3Js for a swim and over to my mother in law place... Gave her a stack of flower and spend an hour there for her to play with janelle. She has 3 weeks don't play with janelle.
And today, We started the day at goat farm topping up stock for janelle together with 3Js, mom, Sis and S. Lunch, marketing, Mygym and spending 3 hrs in the kitchen to cook a meal for my family with my Sis. Goodness me. This is the first time and will be the last time I guess. I'm not a cook. Haa... Cooked 2 dishes in 3 hrs, sounded horrible isn't it? And come out result failed!! Guess I not fated to be a cook.
Joke for the day:
This is how my Sis cook - standing as far as possible
And this is how I cook: cooking with recipe on hand
Haa, but this definitely will be a memorable mothers day, thought it tiring, but it filled with lots of laughter.
Heres my mother's present:
From my sis-
From Janelle (mygym handcraft)
Brought a cake for my mom, from ritz when the money donated to smile.
To all mummies reader,
HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY... You are the greatest...
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And today, We started the day at goat farm topping up stock for janelle together with 3Js, mom, Sis and S. Lunch, marketing, Mygym and spending 3 hrs in the kitchen to cook a meal for my family with my Sis. Goodness me. This is the first time and will be the last time I guess. I'm not a cook. Haa... Cooked 2 dishes in 3 hrs, sounded horrible isn't it? And come out result failed!! Guess I not fated to be a cook.
Joke for the day:
This is how my Sis cook - standing as far as possible
And this is how I cook: cooking with recipe on hand
Haa, but this definitely will be a memorable mothers day, thought it tiring, but it filled with lots of laughter.
Heres my mother's present:
From my sis-
From Janelle (mygym handcraft)
Brought a cake for my mom, from ritz when the money donated to smile.
To all mummies reader,
HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY... You are the greatest...
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A short trip
Sianz. Told him so many times that I can't go away these mths. And after this huge quarrel, he still don't get it. I can't says don't help pop at this time as there is not HR personnel. I need to ensure that 150 workers get pay. I need to ensure that Work permits, cpf issues are handled. Also HP also having peak period, changed of mgr and restructuring.. every thing is to be done by myself, no resources and mgmt don't trust hub and wants us to monitor them.. Everynight i already work till i cry. And now he is asking to go for a short break with janelle. I have no idea how I can reject him. I know when I do so, there's will be be a huge quarrel again. if I don't, don't know how many nights of midnight oil I need to burn. I know he is out of goodwill wants to org a family trip. I have been asking for such trips since last year, which he keep delayed. Now when I rushing for time, he ask me to go off. How I wish I have 48 hrs a day or there is 2 Yvonne.
God, pls grant me more candidates for HR exec and I can confirm them soon. Pls speed up my pop hiring process. Haiz, when dismiss a staff, he can do so within a day. When hiring person he drag and drag, it takes months. I'm very tired especially when I'm in a sandwiched.
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God, pls grant me more candidates for HR exec and I can confirm them soon. Pls speed up my pop hiring process. Haiz, when dismiss a staff, he can do so within a day. When hiring person he drag and drag, it takes months. I'm very tired especially when I'm in a sandwiched.
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Friday, May 6, 2011
Mother's Day Special
Was at my mom's place yesterday evening to pick up Janelle and i overheard J telephone conversation with her mom.
J: "Mommy, Tomorrow are you free? Can you come to my school because i have a mother day's performance for you in school."
M: "I have to work. Cannot go."
And J put down the phone and sit at the stairs alone.. looking very sad. i see tears in her eyes. My heart *ouch*. I gave her my promised that gugu will be there to see her performance and i can see her smile again.
and the performance:
my mom and me tears when we saw this peformance. It's so touching, i waiting for Janelle to perform to me. why there are ppl dont know how to appreciate when they have the chance.
J: "Mommy, Tomorrow are you free? Can you come to my school because i have a mother day's performance for you in school."
M: "I have to work. Cannot go."
And J put down the phone and sit at the stairs alone.. looking very sad. i see tears in her eyes. My heart *ouch*. I gave her my promised that gugu will be there to see her performance and i can see her smile again.
When she saw my mom and me walked into the classroom, she was so excitied.
mother's day gift to mommy
and the performance:my mom and me tears when we saw this peformance. It's so touching, i waiting for Janelle to perform to me. why there are ppl dont know how to appreciate when they have the chance.
Thursday, May 5, 2011
Stressed up
After all the hilo last weekend, this week i had been very stress up and tired - mentally and physically.
So many things on my plate:
- this week is doing transitions from the HR exec who worked with dad for 10 yrs.
- hiring on behalf of dad which i cant wait any longer.
- cracking my brain for a win win solution and how face my hus when he is back next week. this is stressing me mentally.
- HP work load, still managable.. but might need to spent a couple of late night to complete those operational and backlog.
lucky this week janelle had been good girl. She sleeps well, eat well, enjoyed her school and at enjoyed my mom place. Thanks sweeties.. Mommy love you.
keep telling myself, ignore what's approaching.. i can do it.. i just need to hold it firm for 1 more months, and when new HR exec comes in, i can be step down. but the next one month will be horrible, no HR around...
So many things on my plate:
- this week is doing transitions from the HR exec who worked with dad for 10 yrs.
- hiring on behalf of dad which i cant wait any longer.
- cracking my brain for a win win solution and how face my hus when he is back next week. this is stressing me mentally.
- HP work load, still managable.. but might need to spent a couple of late night to complete those operational and backlog.
lucky this week janelle had been good girl. She sleeps well, eat well, enjoyed her school and at enjoyed my mom place. Thanks sweeties.. Mommy love you.
keep telling myself, ignore what's approaching.. i can do it.. i just need to hold it firm for 1 more months, and when new HR exec comes in, i can be step down. but the next one month will be horrible, no HR around...
Tuesday, May 3, 2011
Special delivery
I had a suprise gift this morning, special delivery of eclairs to my door steps from A.
she made my day. Thank you very much A. I love you!!!!
she made my day. Thank you very much A. I love you!!!!
Monday, May 2, 2011
Everyone had sided him
Dad says I had over reacted... Dad says he did it because he love me, he doesn't wants to see me so stress up
Bro says if him, he will also do the same to dad for his wife
Mom says, he heart pain seeing me working so hard..
Maybe I should think it this way too.. So I'm can feel better and put this behind. He is away for 2 weeks, guess both of us can calm down before the next meet up.
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Bro says if him, he will also do the same to dad for his wife
Mom says, he heart pain seeing me working so hard..
Maybe I should think it this way too.. So I'm can feel better and put this behind. He is away for 2 weeks, guess both of us can calm down before the next meet up.
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My little sweeties
Still very upset what had happened yesterday. When think of it, my tears will flow down uncontrollable.
This morning, janelle saw me crying on the sofa talking to my in law over the phone. she came beside me and cry, cry even louder than me.. Haaa.. This girl ah.
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This morning, janelle saw me crying on the sofa talking to my in law over the phone. she came beside me and cry, cry even louder than me.. Haaa.. This girl ah.
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Sunday, May 1, 2011
Marriage
Marriage is definitely not belongs to 2 person, it's 2 families. when he doesn't respect and support what my family is. Can this relationship continue?
I have always thought I managed my time very well. Monday to Friday I will clear my HP work as much and as fast as I could. I will bring jx to school, to treatment, to doc follows up and therapies if any. Sat I spend my morning with my hus and jx (have a breakfast, go to the farm) before I went in to pop company to clear those impt HR stuff and payroll. Sunday and public holiday I will make sure I spent my time with jx. When hus not around, then will spend time with my family. But not sure what's he not happy abt.
Today he turned my family upside down. He words had hurt my dad, mom , the 3kids and me to the max. I run away from home as I don't wish to flight infront of my family and make them worried. I have no face to face anyone of them. I'm ashamed of what he did. I called his Sis to go over my mom place to bring him away before more ppl is hurt by his words from his temper. Can't wait for tmr to come and he will be far far away from us and we can breath.
Had some time by myself to sort things out. But I still can't figure out why he want to do this to hurt me.. Don't he love me? Don't he understand why I want to do this?? Upset and disappointed to the max.
I have always thought I managed my time very well. Monday to Friday I will clear my HP work as much and as fast as I could. I will bring jx to school, to treatment, to doc follows up and therapies if any. Sat I spend my morning with my hus and jx (have a breakfast, go to the farm) before I went in to pop company to clear those impt HR stuff and payroll. Sunday and public holiday I will make sure I spent my time with jx. When hus not around, then will spend time with my family. But not sure what's he not happy abt.
Today he turned my family upside down. He words had hurt my dad, mom , the 3kids and me to the max. I run away from home as I don't wish to flight infront of my family and make them worried. I have no face to face anyone of them. I'm ashamed of what he did. I called his Sis to go over my mom place to bring him away before more ppl is hurt by his words from his temper. Can't wait for tmr to come and he will be far far away from us and we can breath.
Had some time by myself to sort things out. But I still can't figure out why he want to do this to hurt me.. Don't he love me? Don't he understand why I want to do this?? Upset and disappointed to the max.
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